Neuro-Integrative Trauma Recovery
N-ITR* is my unique, holistic system for healing from trauma and restoring your sense of wholeness. It utilizes methods that engage the central nervous system, the limbic system of the brain, the body's energetic network, and cognitive reframing to regulate your emotional state, rewire neural pathways, and integrate your experiences deeply and safely.
Sessions take place virtually via Zoom, and are generally either 50 or 80 minutes in length. You will need a quiet space where you feel safe to speak frankly with me. The ideal equipment for sessions is a laptop and headphones, but I have worked successfully with all kinds of setups.
The first step is for us to meet for a free 15-30 minute consultation. Numerous studies show that the best indicator of success in a coaching relationship is just that -- the relationship. So let's meet, discuss what you're looking for and how I work, and make sure we both feel that this is a good fit. If for any reason one of us doesn't think it's quite right, we'll discuss possible referrals to get you the support you're looking for.
More about Neuro-Integrative Trauma Recovery
Neuro-Integrative Trauma Recovery (N-ITR*) is my own creation; a multifaceted, holistic approach to trauma that allows you to heal your relationship to the experiences you've survived. The goal is not to get rid of the trauma, but to integrate those experiences into the totality of who we are, allowing those experiences space inside of us while no longer being defined by them.
N-ITR* draws on the work of thought leaders and pioneers such as David Grand (Brainspotting), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing), Leslie Temple Thurston (The Marriage of Spirit), Gabor Maté (The Wisdom of Trauma), Stephen Porges (Polyvagal Theory), Gary Craig (Emotional Freedom Technique), Bert Hellinger (Family Constellation Work), Pia Mellody (Codependency & Addiction Recovery, Inner Child Work), Margaret Paul (Inner Bonding) and others.
Although there are distinct aspects to the recovery process, these aspects may overlap or occur in a non-linear way.
Aspect 1 is Witnessing. Traumatic experiences are often tangled with shame, secrecy, and a conscious or unconscious decision to "carry the burden" so others won't have to feel it. In the safety of our sessions you'll have the opportunity to unburden yourself, break the secrets, and release the shame surrounding these experiences. I serve as a loving and compassionate witness, but perhaps even more important and healing, I'll teach you how to become your own loving witness. This often takes the form of internal reparenting, as your wise adult self lets your younger selves know that they are no longer alone with this pain and when they're scared, they don't have to take over with coping mechanisms that no longer serve you. You can "be with" them now, and move through the pain together.
Aspect 2 is Co-Regulation. We are relational beings, and the field of Interpersonal Neurobiology has proven that the quality of our relating matters deeply when it comes to trauma. When you are in distress or dysregulation, and you share your experience with
someone who also becomes distressed, your own dysregulation likely gets magnified. If you share with someone who is indifferent, you might respond to that loneliness with numbing or despair.
On the other hand, if you share with someone who is able to witness you while staying regulated themselves, your nervous system will come back into regulation more quickly and you'll be able to integrate the experience more fully. So the first healthy co-regulating experience you'll have is with me, as my regulated system witnesses and co-regulates your system. Even more potent, though, is that as you learn the reparenting process, you'll be using your loving wise adult to powerfully co-regulate with your traumatized younger parts. This internal co-regulation will become a regular practice that you can use for the rest of your life to face challenges in a calm, present, resourced way.
Aspect 3 is Integration. One of the hallmarks of trauma is that it shocks the system, which short-circuits the processing and integration of the experience. Partially-processed trauma is like partially-digested food; it stays free-floating in the system and if it doesn't get digested, processed, and either expelled or put away properly, it will become toxic. Properly digested food, though, dissolves into and becomes a part of the wholeness that is you. The bulk of our work in sessions will involve the use of a number of tools and practices that will help you process and integrate traumatic experiences, both with me in session, and on your own.
Aspect 4 is Wellness. A well-maintained system is a resilient system. We'll discuss other practices you can incorporate into your daily life as early as Day 1, to release past & present stress, reframe your story, and cultivate an empowered, mindful presence that will allow more light, joy, ease, & equanimity into your life. For the rest of your life.